Almost on the sidelines

If we share our lives with someone, there are unwritten laws and rules that arise from living together.

The people involved in that relationship know this, even if they have never spoken or even thought about it.

What happens if one of those people has a feeling of strangeness, and feels almost on the sidelines of these agreements?

Most likely, they will begin to blame the other person for not keeping the agreements, or for destabilizing the relationship.

However, there is another relationship that comes to light here, and it is not the relationship with the person with whom one lives, but a more intimate and personal relationship, which is surely the one influencing this to happen.

Relax! I'm not referring to third parties.

So what is that more personal relationship?

The mother-in-law, the mother, the neighbor…?

Cold, cold.

This more intimate relationship, which is generally unknown or whose influence is not valued, is the relationship with oneself.

So, when someone who shares their daily life with others begins to feel almost marginalized , it's because the relationship they're ignoring, and which is interfering with their day-to-day life, is their own relationship with themselves. And most likely, at that moment they aren't listening to their own needs, and instead begin to feel separated from those closest to them.

If this is recognized, now is a good time to introduce a change.

Angelina Fabiola Caminos

Pintura Carlos Resano Vasilchick